Healing from the Roots
Depth-Oriented Somatic Therapy for Deeply Feeling Adults
- You replay conversations at 2 am, picking apart what you said wrong.
- You feel too much, then shut down and feel nothing.
- You can be in a room of people you love and still feel completely alone.
- You have a conflict and then spend hours or even days going back and forth between feeling angry and feeling guilty.
- You have pain in your body and feel embarrassed, as if that means that there is something wrong with you.
- You worry about what is happening in the world and feel like it’s just too much for you to bear.
- You feel pressure to meet other people’s expectations and live in fear of disappointing them.
- You long for intimate connection but when people get too close you feel like you lose yourself.
- You spend so much time and energy trying to fix yourself, whether that means trying new supplements or diets or buying more self-help books.
- You feel hurt by something someone says or does but make excuses for them or minimize how it impacted you to avoid conflict.
- You keep yourself busy or distracted to avoid feeling your grief for the losses in your life.
This work is about coming home to yourself.
Whatever you are struggling with, please know that you are not alone. There are many others who have struggled in this way, too. And there are many who have reconnected with themselves in order to live with more vitality, confidence, intimacy, authenticity, and self-acceptance.
I approach this work with deep respect for the inner conflicts that are inherent to the human experience. So often our emotional struggles come back to the fundamental need to both be authentic to ourselves and to feel connected with others. For so many of us the patterns that cause us the most pain were a result of disconnecting from our own bodies and emotions in order to survive and adapt to our childhood environment.
Most of us learned, very young, which parts of ourselves were welcome and which needed to disappear. We got quieter, smaller, and more agreeable or louder, more driven, and more in control because it helped us stay connected to the people we needed. Those adaptations made sense and were necessary for our survival. But carried into adulthood, they can leave us cut off from our own feelings, our bodies, and the fullness of who we actually are. This may look like depression, anxiety, codependency, self-hatred, shame, addiction, and relationship problems.
My work is to help you find your way back, not by fixing yourself, but by reconnecting with what got disowned along the way: the grief you weren’t allowed to feel, the anger you learned to swallow, the needs you stopped voicing, even the gifts you learned to hide because they made others uncomfortable. This work supports deep self-acceptance that ultimately includes compassion for the parts of ourselves we struggle with the most. Many of my clients describe this process as a feeling of coming home or reconnecting with their authentic self.
Learn about my approach
Trauma Informed Healing to Reconnect with the Self you Left Behind
NARM®
The NeuroAffective Relational Model® is an advanced attachment-focused approach to working with relational and developmental trauma. Rather than dwelling in the past, we work with how old survival strategies are showing up right now in your body, your relationships, and your sense of self.
Shadow Work®
The parts of yourself that you disowned along the way: anger, need, sadness, sexuality, vulnerability. They didn’t disappear, they just went underground. Shadow Work® helps us meet these parts with understanding and compassion instead of judgment, so we can reconnect with and accept our own humanity.
Mindfulness
Learning to notice what’s happening in your body and mind, moment to moment, without immediately needing to fix or flee it is both an incredibly powerful and at the same time challenging practice. Working experientially, slowing down to notice what’s happening in the present, helps to deepen this capacity.
Where to begin
Schedule a free consultation
A short, no-pressure call to share a bit about what you’re wanting from therapy.
Ask anything you’re curious about
How I work, what a session looks like, whether NARM® sounds like a fit for you.
Decide together
If it feels right to both of us, we’ll set up your first full session.
“We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.” C.G. Jung